One of my friends had a blog post about commiting herself to making her blog more meaningful. When I initially started this blog it was to keep our families up to date on how everything was going our way. But, I also wanted to use the blog as an outlet for any introspection I had on the simple and complex things of life. Her post has inspired me to finally share more of my piece of mind, in between catching everyone up our family adventures.
Life is busy for all us. Sometimes it seems like all there is to each others life is the daily responsibilities we all have, and when we come together as strangers, acquaintances, or friends we just catch each other up on the big things. However, often at times, it's the little things in our lives that really speak about who we are, and where we are going. Furthermore, not talking about the little things sometimes prevents someone else from truly seeing who we are as people. And so i'm officially committing myself to also blog about my thoughts, feelings, and run-ins with what we call life. I always have thoughts about things and my thoughts comprise who I am, my character. However, I keep a lot of thoughts to myself and only share them with my most intimate friends (which trust me, is very very few these days). I know that I need to start speaking my mind more, because it will challenge me to think deeper and act upon things, and become a better wife, mother, friend, and citizen in society. Here's to starting anew with my blog, which will now be more like my confidant.
The issue of quality over quantity
I have always been about quality. I have never needed a lot of one thing or people. I was always the girl that preferred to have few great friends over a lot of 'ok' friends. I want the best, because I give the best, and so my standard starts high for almost everything in life. However, because life keeps us busy, sometimes we can lose sight of what we are presently getting out of life. We get caught up on living day to day, that we forget to think about how we are living day to day. Sometimes, when we start to merely live day to day it's easy to focus on what is "fun" in life rather than what is "enriching" in life. It's always easier to think about fun rather than what will strengthen us. Yet, sometimes, life is both fun and enriching, that's a great combination. Anyway...trust me, all this mumbo jumbo really is connected. What i'm getting to here is that in my recent past I got caught up with quantity and I started losing some quality (not speaking about material things here). However, since it's not in my character to prefer quantity over quality, of course it caused some sort of imbalance in my life. And, boy do I love balance in all things. And so, the issue of quality has been on my mind recently. I understand that everyone is different (some of us are quantity people, while others prefer quality) and we all need different things out of people and life, but I hope this leads you to wonder about your life. Are you merely living day to day, or are you thinking about how you live day to day? Is your life in line with the character you posses inside? I know one thing, I need to realign my life back to surrounding myself around quality in all things. I know i'll be happier that way. I'll leave you with these two quotes I love, and that touch specifically on how I will be working to improve the issue of quality in my life.
"All things will be produced in superior quantity and quality, and with greater ease, when each man works at a single occupation, in accordance with his natural gifts, and at the right moment, without meddling with anything else."
-Plato (thank you for your wisdom, you were/are so dang smart!)
"It is not the quantity of the meat, but the cheerfulness of the guests, which makes the feast."
-Edward Hyde
And so i'll use my natural gifts to cultivate quality in my life and in the life of those I love, and I will surround myself around cheerful and honest people who will allow me to utilize and strengthen my natural gifts, and who are also happy when I'm happy, and are eager to be there for me when i'm sad. That's the kind of friend I am, and so those are the kind of friends I need. I love how you can build your life up on the wisdom of others. If you are still reading this, I hope I made some sort of sense for you! :-)
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VANESSA !!!!! i loved, LOVED that post! you hit it right on the dot. i almost feel as thought i need to write a post in response to it--- i may, but i will also comment! ps--that reaction thing, threw me off. haha!
but i TOTALLY agree, and you couldn't have said it any better. i never thought about it in the quality aspect, but that is totally what it is. i remember my boss telling me to surround myself with people who are better than me, so that they can teach me and help me become a better person.
and when it comes to friends--- oh my! don't get me started. but again just as you said, i only expect the best, cause i feel that is what i give. i think that is so so fair.
oh vanessa--- even though we are miles and hundreds of miles away, and though it has been years, i do hope that we can stay in touch and continue to cultivate our friendship. the blessings that have come into my life are many, and i do consider you as one! love ya!
Very well said.
It has been a long time since I've sat down and caught up on friends through their blogs, and it is so fun to see little Gabriel growing up, and hearing your wonderful thoughts! The most important person to see your character (in my humble opinion) through your honest writing is Gabriel. He will get glimpses of who his mother really is, and will see that she was and is a marvelous woman. He is a lucky little boy.
Miss you!
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